Des 3
Ian dear, I’m so deeply sorry about Des. Losing the person you shared 27 years with is shattering. What the two of you had was real, lasting love. In by Des’s own words, you made him very happy. You have always been close to my heart, even across the years when contact between us was simply unavailable. my absence was never indifference, and never a lack of care. It was the consequence of circumstances that took all my strength simply to endure. You were never absent from my thoughts. When my mum died, I found your letters from the 90s and relived the warmth and connection there was between us, and the weight of what followed. Life took me very far away in those years for survival, just as Childline had advised in 1986. to get help for the childhood trauma. Taking that advice cost me contact with you, and everything and everybody I had ever known . Though it is distant now, I do remember the wrench . In a world without mobile phones, email, or social media...